Don’t be sorry, be better

Don't be sorry, be better; this is the mantra that has been repeating in my head for quite some time. I understand that as people and human beings we can mess up on a daily basis in so many levels. We'll say something hurtful to someone, cuss someone out when we're pissed off and frustrated or we physically put our hands on someone and intentionally or unintentionally hurt them when we're feeling hurt and threatened. An sincere apology is where someone can recognize and understand the behavior that someone has done and find ways that they can shift their behavior and improve themselves and their relationships on a daily basis. When someone says sorry and down the road in the future they'll be involved in a dispute or an argument that can be heavy and intense and repeat the same harmful actions to people that hurt them emotionally, mentally and physically then there can be some problems with that. When someone repeats those actions, they haven't learned from the argument or dispute that they were in the past and saying sorry is a way of sweeping things under the rug and not facing the heavy issue on. Saying sorry repeatedly in a way to dismiss, sweep under the rug and dismiss the other person's perspective can be a form of manipulation to keep someone in control and in a state of fear. i for one hand am not a fan of controlling people, hurting people and manipulating people like that. If i make a mistake of hurting someone emotionally, mentally and physically, i'll do my very best to get help, shift my behavior and learn any actions that can strengthen my relationships with people & with myself as well. Having compassion & forgiveness can work also because you can hold space for people to change & evolve into the best versions of themselves & be part of their lives again, but if people haven't learned from their mistakes, keep hurting people emotionally, mentally and physically and they say sorry to sweep it under the rug and try to control and manipulate you, then it's time for people who have been hurt by these actions from these people to create healthy and strong boundaries and keep your distance from them and leave them alone in a way that you can protect your body, heart and mind, and it may be easier said in done for most people, but in the long run it'll benefit our overall health.